A Bit of Planning

So, Matt and I are not engaged. Technically. He hasn’t asked the question, however we are actively planning a wedding. Mostly it’s me, but he pitches some ideas too, and I bounce thoughts off him frequently.

Anyway, we want to make sure Shanna, (his daughter and first love) is included in the wedding more than just a flower girl. We wanted to do something special, just as a symbol that we will never leave her out and there will always be love for her with us.

I was on Pinterest, and saw a few pins that gave me a great idea: we’ll give her a ring as well. After talking to Matt about it, he and I agreed on this plan. Before he asks me, he will have a Daddy-Daughter date with Shanna, just them, no me. And he will bring up the idea of getting married, and during that bring out a little tiara shaped promise ring for her.

Now, Shanna is not quite old enough for boys (she’ll be in the 4th grade this year) but the promise will be that she is always his first love, and she will come first, as she should. When she gets to be old enough to date, she’ll get a new one, but that’s a bridge we’ll cross when we need to.

Now, when it comes to the wedding, we still want to incorporate something with her during the ceremony, and I had the thought of it being in the unity ceremony. I’ve already decided to do a braided cord, I saw something like that and thought it was perfect. The cord comes from scripture, Ecclesiastes 4:9-12, “A cord of 3 strands is not easily broken.” Now the 3 strands are supposed to be the couple and God, but what if we added a fourth strand for Shanna?

Matt doesn’t seem to care what we do for a unity ceremony, or even if we have one, but I think we should, and that if we do, we should try to incorporate Shanna into it as well.

Another thing we were thinking would be doing a hand cast, ya know, where you dip your hand into a bucket of like rubber and it molds your hand and then you pour plaster into the mold? That thing. But it would take too long to actually do at our wedding, so it might be something we do before or after the ceremony with the 3 of us.

Honestly if anyone has any ideas for what we can do for that, please let me know. I think it’ll be a nice touch to our wedding, and it’ll mean a lot to Shanna, even if it’s later in her life. I know the wedding is about Matt and I becoming one and all that, but we can’t just forget about her, that’d be mean.

Wow this as gone on for a while! I’m gonna go ahead and end this here.

Remember, none of us are perfect, and we shouldn’t judge each other. Be kind to everyone you meet, and know that you are loved more than you know!!